Do you wish you had more self confidence? Poor self esteem is strongly linked to unconscious beliefs that you hold about yourself. You may not be aware of them but they’re lurking beneath the surface and having a significant effect on the way that you see yourself.
In this blog post, I’m sharing some tips on how you can start to see yourself in a more positive light and giving some insight into how hypnotherapy can help.
Some of the benefits include:
- Less stress and anxiety, especially relating to your perception of yourself
- Being less likely to need to seek validation and approval from others or worry about what they think
- Many people with fairly high esteem are happier as it has been put forward as an essential basis for building long term happiness
Being more mindful can help to put some mental distance between yourself and the negative self talk coming from your inner critic. Those “put downs” you think to yourself can be very damaging for your self esteem and can quickly and easily become beliefs that need to be unlearned. Mindfulness can be a great way to make yourself more aware of your inner dialogue in the first place too as it can actually be difficult to recognise when it’s become second nature and completely ‘normal’ for you.
Ditch the comparisons
Comparing yourself to other people can be hugely detrimental for your self esteem. It’s also something of a vicious circle as you’re more likely to compare yourself unfavourably to other people if you have low self esteem.
Instead of comparing yourself to others, use yourself as the benchmark instead. Compare yourself to where you want to be in the future and aim to be a better version of yourself.
Create appreciation lists
Spend a bit of time every day making a list of things that you appreciate about yourself. If your self esteem is low, this can be a big challenge to begin with but once you start putting things down on paper, it can work wonders for boosting your self esteem and helping you to feel more positive about yourself.
Positive affirmations can be powerful in unlearning negative thought patterns that are affecting your self esteem. The act of repeating positive mantras can encourage your mind to believe what you’re saying so that it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.
Carry out random acts of kindness
Doing kind things for other people can mean that you’re less focused on your self. Plus, it gives you a good feeling to know that you’re helping other people. Random acts of kindness can take a lot of different forms, from giving your time through volunteering to doing shopping for an elderly neighbour or spending time with someone who could do with a boost. What you choose to do isn’t that important as long as it benefits other people and enables you to come out of your self for a while.
How Hypnotherapy Can Help
Because confidence is a mindset, it is something that can be worked on through hypnotherapy. Accessing the unconscious mind gives the opportunity to challenge and overcome the unconscious beliefs that are at the heart of poor self esteem.
The next step is to retrain your mind to adopt healthier and more positive thought patterns, which can significantly improve your mental wellbeing if you’re struggling to improve your self esteem through other measures. Suggestions can be a hugely powerful tool for doing this and they can be adapted to address the specific beliefs that are affecting your self esteem.
Here’s some feedback from a client who came to me for help in improving her self esteem:
“I visited Sam to help with negative thought patterns, low self esteem and low self confidence. Sam taught me how to stop and alter my thoughts, make positive changes in my life and work habits and to have a much more positive attitude. I am in a much happier, rational and stable place now and will continue to use the tools she taught me.”